After Infidelity Free Email Course: What You Need To Know
If you’re scrambling for answers after infidelity, this FREE course reveals what 200+ women wish someone had told them on day one.
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For years, I’ve helped women figure out their next steps after infidelity. My FREE, confidential email course gives you the insight over 200 women wish they’d received sooner.
What You Need To Know After Infidelity
When everything collapses after infidelity, most women reach for help fast: couple therapy, addiction recovery, anything that might stop the chaos.
But here’s the part no one warns you about:
Most therapists don’t understand what’s actually happening after infidelity.
And women often don’t realize this until months (sometimes years) of confusion, blame, and emotional exhaustion.
Before you take one more step, here are the 5 things every woman needs to know after infidelity:
1. Most Therapy After Infidelity Gets Betrayal Trauma Completely Wrong
A lot of therapists focus on:
- communication tools
- emotional disconnection
- “shared responsibility”
But betrayal trauma from infidelity isn’t caused by communication problems.
It’s caused by something else that this FREE After Infidelity Email course will show you.
If a therapist can’t name those causes out loud, they can’t help you.
And you’re the one who pays the price.
2. You Deserve Better Than a Therapist Who’s Learning on Your Dime
Women tell me all the time:
“Anne, your podcast was the first place that actually described my marriage.”
You shouldn’t have to educate a therapist before they can help you. Your energy should go toward healing, not teaching.
3. No One Can Make Him Be Honest After Infidelity
Some therapists promise they can “teach” him how to be honest.
But honesty isn’t a skill he failed to learn. It’s a choice he refused to make.
If he’s image-focused or manipulative, he may:
- charm the therapist
- say all the right things
- look cooperative
- make you look irrational
That’s not going to heal the marriage. That’s damage control—for him.
4. The Truth Is NOT “Somewhere in the Middle” After Infidelity
After his infidelity, even friends and family will say, “There are two sides to every story.”
But when one person is lying, and one person is telling the truth, the “middle” is just another distortion.
This approach can:
- validate his lies
- mislabel your trauma as “reactivity”
- pressure you to “do your work” for something you had nothing to do with
When others say it takes too to tango, you feel blamed. And he feels justified. That won’t heal anything a marriage after infidelity. That will only make things worse.
5. Traditional Marriage Tools Don’t Work After Infidelity
Communication exercises and reconnection tools only work when both people are emotionally safe and honest.
Even if he says he regrets it, if he’s still lying, those tools:
- pressure you to “connect” with someone who isn’t trustworthy
- give him more ways to twist your words
- deepen your anxiety and self-doubt
Before you believe a man who has just lied to you for years, you need to see what’s really been going on.
Why Getting Help Often Makes Things Worse After Infidelity
Therapists or clergy rely on the framework you bring into the room.
If you’re confused, they follow your confusion.
If he’s deceptive, they follow his performance.
That’s why so many women say: “I reached out for help after infidelity hoping for answers… and that confused me even more.”
You Need Answers Before You Go For Help After Infidelity
You need:
- a clear understanding of what’s actually happening
- language to describe the patterns
- strategies to recognize manipulation
- a sense of emotional safety and security
Without that clarity, trying to get help to heal the marriage after infidelity can make things worse.
THE FREE Email Course Women Need After Infidelity
I interviewed over 200 women and all of them told me, “After I discovered my husband’s lies, I wish someone had told me this sooner.”
So I created a FREE, confidential After Infidelity email course that:
- shares what 200+ women wish they’d known
- gives straightforward answers with zero pressure
- gives you immediate answers so you can be confident about how to move forward
You don’t have to figure out what to do after infidelity alone.
After 4 years of couples therapy, we hadn’t made any progress.
That’s when I found Anne’s podcast and now I know why it wasn’t working.
This course helped me see why therapy wasn’t working with my husband.
I’m mad the therapists didn’t know this, but so grateful I found BTR.
This answered questions I’d had for YEARS that no therapist could answer.
Anne Blythe, M.Ed
Author, Founder & Executive Director
Anne is the Producer and Host of the The Betrayal Trauma Recovery Podcast and the author of Trauma Mama Husband Drama
After spending seven years trying to make sense of her marriage and another eight years navigating the aftermath, Anne has interviewed more than 200 women who’ve experienced betrayal. Her work is grounded in their stories.
Anne knows exactly what women need when they’re confused, scared, and trying to hold their families together.
